4. Strengthening Justice

 As parents, this is a complex and challenging subject to live out and demonstrate to our children. Among the characters and virtues we discussed, Justice involves values, philosophy, ethics, culture, personal experiences, and emotions. In the West, Justice is a Latin word, Jus, which means correct or law. It is closely related to the concept of Fairness. We can have "just standard," but we may not receive "fair treatment."  This brings out the personal aspect of values and the social dimension of action. In the East, the Chinese word is RenYi (仁義) benevolence or GongYi (公義) righteousness. Again, it brings out the dimensions of values and social action.

For our practical purpose of parenting, there are three aspects of how we as parents can help instill and strengthen this character:

1. Fairness: Listen to our children when they express, "this is not fair." This opens up a good conversation in exploring their concept, values, and life circumstances so we better understand what they need. Avoid lecturing them and, thus, shutting down the golden opportunity of shaping their character. Only when our children feel we are listening and valuing their ideas can we discuss the characters and virtues desired.

2. Leadership: Create opportunities and encourage our kids to express their ideas and take action to make things happen. Be a leader rather than wait for someone else to take charge. 

3. Teamwork: Treat others as we deserve. Take responsibility for doing our parts and encourage others to do theirs. When facing unfair situations, encourage our children to speak up and take action.